Ecology of life. Psychology: Defending yourself against insults, it's easy to get caught up in a vicious circle of punches and counter-punches. However, there are ways...

Offensive words lie in wait for us daily - often when we are least ready for it:

• on the road during rush hours, when people show their worst qualities;
• in lines when we run out of patience;
• at work and at the festive table, where people consider rudeness almost permissible.

Critical attacks are so varied that they defy classification. Here are “light”, everyday injections (“well, finally!”), And such when it gets dark in the eyes from resentment (“I see that you are busy doing what you do best - you are eating again”).

Sometimes words just betray insensitivity. Gathering his courage, the son told his mother that his wife had left him, and in response he heard: “She was going for a long time.”

It is believed that in the family we can hide from the world. In fact, relatives say things to each other that they would never say to an outsider, often adding in justification: “You know, I say this because I love you.”

One woman recalls how one day, when she was 12 years old, she was standing in front of a mirror and her mother suddenly said: “Don't worry, dear. If the nose still grows, it will be possible to do the operation.” Until that day, the girl had no idea that she did not have a perfect nose.

Particularly "good" are the veiled insults, which are called "constructive criticism", although they have nothing to do with it. They are easily recognizable by their accompanying phrases such as "I hope I can speak frankly with you" or "I'm telling you this for your own good". It turns out that you should almost admire the open-heartedness of the critic and appreciate his concern, while you are hardly recovering from the blow.

When defending against insults, it's easy to get caught up in a vicious circle of punches and counterstrikes. Fortunately, there are ways to repel the attack of the offender without dropping your own dignity.

The next time you're the target of criticism, try these tips.

1. Try to understand

The one who criticizes others is often filled with resentment himself. If you can't figure out what the person who offended you is really worried about, ask them about it. Remember: resentment is not always meant for you personally. Look at the situation from the outside and look for the cause.

The waitress is rude to you not because she didn’t like you for some reason - just the day before her beloved left her. The driver, "cutting" you, does not want to annoy you - he is in a hurry to the sick child. Pass it forward, support it.

Trying to understand those whose words hurt you, you can more easily endure the offense.

2. Analyze what was said

In her book The Subtle Art of Verbal Self-Defence, Suzette Hayden Elgin suggests decompose the offending remark into parts and respond to the unspoken reproach without making yourself a victim. For example, if you hear “if you loved me, you would lose weight,” you can answer like this: “And how long ago did you decide that I don’t love you?”

3. Turn to face the offender

It is not easy to resist insults. Helps, in particular, directness. Remove the negative charge, for example, with such a question: “Do you need to offend me for some reason?” or “Do you understand how such words can be perceived?”

You can also ask the person to clarify the meaning of the remark: “What do you mean?” or “I want to check if I understood you correctly?” As soon as your critic feels that his game has been figured out, he will leave you alone. After all, when you were caught red-handed, it's very embarrassing.

4. Use humor

My friend somehow had to hear: “Is this your new skirt? In my opinion, chairs are upholstered with such fabric. She was not at a loss and answered: "Well, sit down on my knees."

The mother of my friend all her life zealously monitored the cleanliness of the house. One day she found a cobweb in her daughter and asked: “What is this?” "I'm doing a scientific experiment," retorted the daughter. The best weapon against offensive criticism is laughter. A witty response will help you deal with almost any offender.

5. Come up with a symbol

One woman told me that her husband always criticized her in public. Then she began to carry a small towel with her and whenever her husband said something offensive to her, she covered her head with a towel. He was so ashamed that he got rid of his bad habit.

6. Don't mind

Agree with everything. If your wife says, "I think you've put on ten pounds, dear," answer, "Twelve, to be exact." If she doesn’t back down: “Well, what are you going to do with the extra weight?” - try this: “Nothing, probably. I'll just be fat for a while." A hurtful remark is only as powerful as you empower it. By agreeing with criticism, you disarm the critic.

7. Ignore the injection

Listen to the remark, tell yourself that it is in the wrong place, and forget it. The ability to forgive is one of the most important abilities that help us live and that we can develop in ourselves.

If you are not quite ready to forgive yet, let the speaker know that his remark was heard, but there will be no answer. The next time you get taunted, wipe the imaginary stain off your shirt. When the person who hit you asks what you're doing, say, "I thought something hit me, but I must have been wrong."

When the abuser knows that you know too, he becomes much more careful. Or pretend like you're not interested. Blink, yawn, and look away as if to say, “Who cares?” People can't stand being considered boring.

8. Add 10 percent

You will never be able to completely protect yourself from offensive remarks. Try to perceive some of them as natural manifestations of irritation that happen to everyone.

Most of us try not to offend others, but sometimes we make mistakes. So get defensive when you think it's necessary, but think also of the "10 percent rule":

In 10 percent of cases, it turns out that the item you bought is cheaper elsewhere.
- in 10 percent of cases, the thing that you lent to someone is returned to you damaged.
- In 10 percent of cases, even your best friend can say something without thinking and then regret what was said.

In other words, grow thicker skin. It's usually easiest to assume that people are trying to do their best, and many simply don't realize how their behavior affects others.

Constantly defending, proving one's case and controlling the situation is too expensive. Try to forgive and in return you will get much less resentment and trouble than these notorious 10 percent.

Also interesting: Make friends with your fear: IT IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOU THINK

When a man insulted the Buddha, he said, "My son, if anyone refuses to accept a gift, to whom does it then belong?" “To the one who gives,” the man replied. “So,” continued the Buddha, “I refuse to accept your insulting words.

The world is full of people who humiliate others in order to assert themselves. Do not accept insults, even when they are showered upon you, as gifts of love. By ignoring them, you will relieve tension, strengthen your relationships with others, and make your life more joyful. published

Unfortunately, we are not always able to orient ourselves in time and respond correctly in situations where someone offends us. Subsequently, we are upset not only because of the very fact of other people's insults, but also because we failed to give a proper rebuff. In many cases, you can avoid these frustrations.

Many people make the mistake of clearly showing the interlocutor that his words hurt them in some way. Of course, when we are insulted, it is not easy to control ourselves and not show that we are offended and “touched to the quick”. And yet, if you do not cope with this task, then the opponent will understand that he managed to achieve the goal and offend you for real. No matter how difficult it is for you, try to make it clear to the person that his words do not bother you at all. The best way to help you with this is humor, which often helps you respond quickly in unforeseen situations.

If you stock up on a few witty phrases, then, for sure, later they will be able to help you out at the right time.

Examples of such remarks:

• Your words don't surprise me at all. I would be surprised if you said something really smart.
• And nature really has a great sense of humor, since she creates specimens like you!

How to respond to insults and aggression

How to behave when you are insulted

Situations can be different, so it is advisable to adjust your behavior in accordance with them.

• For example, if you yourself offended a person, and you understand that all his insults are just hurt pride and an attempt to avenge the offense, then it is better to remain silent. Probably, the interlocutor is in agony, and with additional remarks you will aggravate the situation even more.
• If they began to offend you undeservedly or even “for no reason at all”, then, probably, the opponent wants to “let off steam”, and it is quite possible that you just fell under a hot hand. Of course, in this situation you should not be a "punching bag" - put the offender in his place!
• If you are offended by a person who is clearly in an inadequate state, then it is better not to have anything to do with him and not get involved in a dialogue. We are talking about a person in hysterics or under the influence of alcohol or drugs. You will not be able to prove anything to such an interlocutor, and it is even quite likely that with your answers (any!) You will provoke him to a new flow of aggression or even the use of physical force. It is better to avoid communicating with such people, even if you surpass them in physical parameters - you should not get involved in a skirmish that is unlikely to end in something good.

Undoubtedly, such a situation is offensive to any person, and sometimes we do not know how to respond to insults. There are times when it is better not to get involved in a conflict and simply ignore unpleasant remarks - for example, at the moment when they are spoken by a drunk or completely out of control person. Another thing is when the interlocutor approaches this consciously. So, with what sharp words can you answer the words of a rude man?

• Your fantasy and mind are so primitive that these insults do not offend me at all.
• It's amazing how easy it is for you to offend someone. Fate will do the same to you, you'll see.

In general, it is worth noting that most often boors specifically try to provoke us into any kind of reaction. Often we notice that someone else's rudeness can completely arise from a completely empty place, or the reason is so insignificant that an adequate person would not pay attention to it at all. Just boors can not deprive themselves of the opportunity to offend someone.

Most often, in such cases, we are advised to ignore the attacks of the ill-wisher, and such recommendations are instilled in us from childhood. And yet, such advice, as a rule, has practically no effectiveness - in practice, it often turns out that a person who has escaped punishment for his sabotage becomes even more impudent. If the boor is constantly ignored, then subsequently he is affirmed in the thought that everything is permitted to him. Therefore, it is important to remember that in no case should we disregard the insults that sellers, administrators, cashiers and other random interlocutors “gift” us during their working hours. The most adequate reaction to such behavior is an appeal to the authorities, whose task is to competently select personnel.

How to adequately respond to rudeness and rudeness

You can very well get out of this situation elegantly if you calmly agree with the boor. This technique has a particularly disarming effect on some people. So, if someone is trying to insult your mental abilities or "ride" in appearance, then half agree with these words, and then thank your opponent for taking the time to find your shortcomings. This method has a very high efficiency when there are spectators present during its implementation. You will not offend the boor in response, but at the same time put him in an awkward position.

Many people are distinguished by increased suspiciousness, and if such an instance met on your way, then, of course, you can scare him with the inevitable retribution “from above”. After the phrases below, the offender will remember the dialogue with you for a long time.

• There is no desire to respond to these insults. However, the day will come when you will understand that all misfortunes have been acquired by you, starting from this day.
• It has already happened that we pay for everything in this life. Remember this day to know why God is punishing you.
• From now on, you are in for a lot of bad luck. I'm not scaring you, I just know about it.

How to intelligently send a person without a mat

If you do not want to swear in response to other people's unpleasant statements, but still think that you should fight back, then it is quite possible to answer intelligently, but still put the person in his place.

• They say that a person usually hides his complexes and insolvency behind insults. Think about it.
• It feels like an insult is the only way you can assert yourself.

How to shut up a person with one beautiful phrase

Sometimes there is no desire to enter into a verbal skirmish, and you want to shut up a person by uttering only one annihilating remark. There are many such phrases, and they act differently on everyone. Here's an example:

• They say that when a person is not particularly brilliant with his mind, the only thing left for him is to stoop to insults.

When insulting the boss

In this case, unfortunately, we do not always have the opportunity to answer the way we want, therefore, it would be most reasonable to simply avoid the conflict. If we are talking not about the authorities, but about a colleague, then there is no need to escalate the situation either - try to answer neutrally.

This technique can also be useful at the moment when the boss offends you: at the time when the boss says unpleasant things to you, mentally imagine a small, capricious child in his place. In your imagination, soothe this baby, stroke him on the head, feed him milk porridge. So it will be much easier for you to listen to insults, and perhaps even your mood will not worsen at all. In addition, the boss, for sure, will be able to assess your stamina.

Buy an Elephant Method

Many people remember a joke from childhood, when the opponent was offered to “buy an elephant”, thereby infuriating him and almost driving him crazy. You can do the same. Answer each barb with the same bored tone: “So?”, “And then that?”, “Really?” and in the same vein. Undoubtedly, by the end of this monotonous conversation, the boor will experience a real decline in moral strength.

Improvisation

In a conversation with the offender, try to use the surprise effect, surprise and disarm him with this. For example, you can laugh out loud in response to unpleasant words, as if you heard the funniest joke. You can also sneeze, noting: "Sorry, I'm just allergic to people like you." In addition, you can smile good-naturedly, and curl: "Surely, your parents are ashamed of your upbringing." Try to improvise!

If you understand that the insults that sound at you are completely unfair, and you guess that your opponent also suspects this, then you should shame him. How can I do that? First of all, you can use certain phrases. If the person insulting you is conscientious enough, then such words will be able to penetrate him.

• Never stoop to insults without understanding the situation properly. It doesn't suit you at all.
• I hope that the day will come when you will be ashamed of everything you said.
• It is strange that I had a much better opinion of you.
• I hope you're just trying to look worse than you really are.

There is no doubt that the person trying to insult you simply wants to somehow assert himself or stand out. At the end of his monologue, you may well ask coldly: “Well, did you manage to assert yourself at my expense?”.

In general, when communicating with such a person, sincerely try to understand what his true goal is, what he wants to achieve with his own words. At these moments, it is not so important what exactly your opponent says to you, but why he does it.

If you cannot find an answer in a difficult situation, then at least try not to bring the matter to mutual insults and impulsive reactions. Do not play by the rules that they try to impose on you.

It is also important to learn how to calmly respond to any rudeness, without “losing face” and a sense of dignity. Although it's hard not to admit that cultural conversion rarely makes a strong impression on the boor.

When it comes to trolling or other provocative situations, the best thing you can do is ignore such a person.

The right response to insults

• It happens that we want to answer, but you know in advance that any of your words simply will not have an effect on the offender. Of course, in this situation it is better not to waste words and energy, but simply cut off the dialogue abruptly.
• It often happens that the person who “attacks” you does not really have anything against you personally - he just has a bad mood. In this case, it is enough to ask him the question: “Bad day?”. An adequate person will not argue with this, and it is even possible that he will apologize.
• Often it is better not to lead to reciprocal insults. Try to avoid this situation by asking the interlocutor what he told you. Pretend you didn't hear his words. It is possible that the person has already regretted what was said. If the “attack” continues, then, apparently, you have a rare boor in front of you.
• During some dialogues, we are simply strangled by the desire to pounce on the interlocutor. And yet, be that as it may, it is very important not to come to this - you will almost certainly regret it. Try to keep your mind calm. It will be ideal if you learn to parry with witty remarks, and not show that provocations hurt you in any way.
• It is impossible not to mention one of the most common mistakes made by people who were forced to face insults. It's about excuses. Often, when we hear hurtful words, we try to prove to the opponent that he is unfair to us. With such tactics, you will undoubtedly find yourself in a position of humiliation.

Insulted by a stranger

If a person is drunk or clearly out of his mind, then you should still ignore his words - just try not to notice him. If we are talking about a stranger who didn’t like your behavior, then try to understand the situation, and then act “according to circumstances”.

Offended by a loved one

It is important to immediately understand why the conflict situation occurred, and what provoked it. It is better to prevent the spread of further quarrel, and frankly tell a loved one that he offended you, and you are hurt by his words. Try not to hush up the conflict, but speak frankly, clarifying the matter.

It happens that at the moments when they try to offend us with their insults, we frantically begin to scroll through the possible answers in our thoughts. It becomes quite insulting if these efforts are in vain and a witty answer comes to our mind after the dialogue is completed. Everyone knows the expression that “after a fight they don’t wave their fists”, therefore it is advisable to respond to the interlocutor’s sharp remarks in a timely manner.

So, let's look at some similar phrases that can help us in a difficult conversation:

• I don't want to interrupt you, but I have more important things to do. Are you done?
• Do you answer politely or tell the truth?

Note that most often people who easily go to insult the interlocutor, as a rule, do not have high intelligence, so smart answers often drive them into a stupor. What options can be used?

Examples:

• I don’t know what your usual diet is, but this menu is clearly not very balanced, and contains harmful carcinogens - they took up the destruction of your brain cells!
• Scientists have not yet fully studied the intellectual abilities of primates. Maybe you could leave your contacts, my friend researcher will need them very much. By the way, do you want to take part in a scientific experiment?

And yet, if possible, try not to respond to insults in the spirit of the offender himself. Or at least don't become the instigator of the conflict! What kind of people tend to do this?

The face of a provocateur

• A weak man who is really a coward, and sharp words are his only defense.
• An energy vampire who tries to bring out the negative emotions of the interlocutor, thereby "feeding" himself.
• Hams without education, who had to grow like "grass in the field."
• Aggressors who find it difficult to live a day without participating in any scandal.
• Unfavorable elements, like drug addicts and alcoholics, who find it difficult to control themselves.
• Just stupid people.

When you understand that an adequate and reasonable person will find a way to convey his idea without obscenities and insults, then it will be much easier for you to respond to the antics of ordinary boors.

How to respond to insults - Do I need to respond?

How to behave if you are insulted?
— How to respond to humiliation: general rules
— How to learn to respond to an offender and not provoke new ones
What to do if you are being rude online?
- How to respond to rudeness from relatives?
- Conclusion

Most often, they offend intentionally, for some reason, for example, trying to offend, humiliate, or show that the offender is better than you.

Insult is always unpleasant, so you need to know how to respond to them. Those who do not know how to respond to insults can go into serious depression.

You may be offended to the core by phrases that you consider to be true. But it's not. So just make it clear to others. Start loving yourself, from your fingertips to your hair and your soul. There are no more like you. Remember this. You are unique. Nobody has the right to be rude to you. You are good at everything that gives you joy. You are smart. You are beautiful. Say nice words to yourself every morning in front of the mirror, admire yourself.

Well think about it, why do people try to offend people who are not like them? In fact, the answer is simple - people are afraid. They are afraid to look weaker than others, thereby insulting and humiliating you. Don't give up and don't let them insult you.

They try to appear stronger by humiliating others, but in reality, offenders are weak personalities.

Therefore, be smarter, be calm about unpleasant phrases addressed to you. Remember that this person is weaker than you and is afraid of simply being worse than you.

It must be remembered that constructive criticism and insults are different things. So, as criticism implies assistance in eliminating the shortcomings of a person, and when insulting, a person humiliates someone else's dignity, while demonstrating his own. Therefore, there is not a drop of truth in insults and therefore you should not take them to heart and delve into yourself, thereby causing sadness and bad emotions in yourself.

Sometimes offenders use non-standard vocabulary, very rude phrases, in order to offend more. It happens that they use subtle insults, manifested through frank sarcasm, ridicule. In order to correctly respond to the words of the offender, you need to understand what insults are flying in your direction.

for example, you do not need to respond to insults with direct obscene words, you can simply load a person with words using the knowledge of neurolinguistic programming.

There are too emotional personalities who are not familiar to you, but stuck in a public place. These can behave inappropriately and attack with fists. Therefore, if you sense that a person is not friendly with the language, then just ignore it. Why would you stoop to the same level. Yes, and the fight will definitely not lead to good.

It is best to calmly respond with an indifferent voice or ignore it. It turns out that you do not care what he thinks and says. As a result, he will quickly fall behind.

An interesting thing is when they try to give you a negative assessment of your appearance or your actions, try to thank the person. This will obviously baffle him and he will not find anything else to say.

Remember that there is no exact way to properly respond to insults. After all, it depends on the situation and on who offends you. But thanks to this article, you can understand how to respond to offenders.

— How to respond to humiliation: general rules

— How to learn to respond to an offender and not provoke new ones

The ability to quickly formulate thoughts will help you to get out of any verbal duel as a winner and put in place a presumptuous interlocutor.
There are people who are rude more often than others. There is such a thing - the psychology of the victim. Sacrificial people who are easy to offend (he has such an appearance, he behaves this way, it can be seen from him that he will not be able to respond to an insult) - he will always find his boor.

Often people are not able to somehow respond to an insult because of their own insecurity, low self-esteem, or natural shyness. Having heard unpleasant words addressed to them, they, overwhelmed by fear, cannot utter a word. Here we need an integrated approach - having started the fight against these qualities, constantly practice the ability to correctly respond to insults. And remember, the reaction to rudeness and boorish behavior must come from the depth of inner steadfastness.

In addition, fear transmitted through some absolutely unthinkable channels can spur the offender to more and more rudeness. So in any conflict situation, including responding to insults, you must, first of all, curb your fear. We are so arranged that, not knowing how to defend ourselves from insult, we involuntarily begin to breathe deeper, strain our eyes, clench our fists or cross our legs and arms. Try to follow your emotions in such situations, and consciously control your external manifestations.

What to do if you are being rude online?

The best medicine is prevention. Communicating on the Web - on forums, in chats - we often do not notice how we ourselves provoke interlocutors to be rude in our direction. And, although the one who was rude is always to blame in such a situation, some rules should still be followed so as not to become a victim of ridicule and insults.

Rule 1. Never take to heart everything that happens on the Web.

Rule 2. Before sending a message, read it carefully several times, try to look at it from the side - is it possible to understand it in two ways, does it correctly reflect your point of view.

Rule 3: Avoid grammatical errors.

Rule 4. Be respectful of all participants in the discussion.

Rule 5. Do not make offtopic under any circumstances, do not try to point your finger at where you were rude, and do not turn the conversation into proof that you were offended.

Rule 6. Distinguish between rudeness and objective criticism. If you have been criticized in a case, thank the critic, for example, with the words: "I'll think about it, thanks for the remark."

Rule 7. Always remember that the manifestation of rudeness is, first of all, proof of a person’s lack of worthy arguments.
But even following these rules will not protect you from insane individuals on the Web. In this case, you should properly respond to rudeness.

- How to respond to rudeness from relatives?

The desire to defend oneself and “send” when insulted is a healthy reaction of the body. Any person has the right to respect from other people and has the right to insist on this and demand respect for himself.
However, when it comes to relatives, especially parents, the healthy reaction of the body - anger - is hindered by other feelings: fear, love for relatives despite disagreements.

If there are prohibitions in the family on manifestations of anger, for example, “to be angry is not good”, to objections to parents, for example, “parents must be obeyed and you cannot be angry with them”, then there may also be a feeling of guilt for one’s anger and thoughts “embed” and "send". If insults and humiliation are the norm in a family, then there may be a strong sense of shame for one's helplessness and inability to defend oneself.

First of all, it is important for you to understand what kind of feelings you experience besides anger at your relatives when you are insulted. To do this, when you are alone, try to remember any time you were abused by them. Feel what emotions arise in response to their words.

Allow yourself to say what you want to say to them. Try to feel how you feel and keep talking about your reaction to the insults. For example, to be ashamed and speak, or be afraid, grieve, feel pain and speak.

You can respond to insults from relatives by showing them your feelings. It may look like this, depending on what feelings you find in yourself:

1) "I love you very much, but I feel offended when you do this";
2) “Your words cause me great pain. It’s very hard for me to listen when you say that”;
3) “When you talk like that, I don't understand what it's about. It will be easier for me to understand you if you don't insult me."

Sometimes with other people, including relatives, it is possible to speak only in their language, giving an adequate rebuff, where force is equal to counterforce. Grief about the fact that relatives are not able to show love and respect, and fight back. Sometimes separation is necessary from people who do not respond to the feelings of other people.

- Conclusion

Before responding to an insult, remember that by insulting you, a person, first of all, humiliates himself. There is a category of people who are unsure of themselves and try to assert themselves at the expense of others, insulting others. These are to be regretted. It is useless to engage in a skirmish with them. Their only job is to spoil your mood. Don't let them.

Another reason that you were offended may be the poor health of the interlocutor. When a person feels bad, he wants the people around him to feel lousy too.

In addition, even if you feel offended, it is possible that the person did not mean to offend you at all, but simply said what he thought. In this case, he had no intention of offending you. Only those whom we allow it can offend us. To feel humiliated or not is up to you.

The material was prepared by Dilyara specifically for the site

There are a lot of people in the world who are different from each other. The differences lie in their character, manner of walking, talking, eating, dressing, in the rules of culture, development as a person. All these moments have a very strong influence on a person. It often happens that there are people who have no idea about the culture and rules of communication.

Insults

Most people can often be rude, present the other in a bad light. Such situations can occur with people of different ages, from early childhood to quite mature years. Not all people can insult and be rude. There are those who simply do not know how to act in such situations. What to do if you are offended? This question worries everyone who has been insulted at least once in their life. He makes you think about your actions and actions in relation to other people.

Why are people rude? What are the reasons for their behavior?

In order to understand how to act in such situations, it is important to understand the reasons for the occurrence of such behavior of another person. After all, knowing the reason, you can not take the words of a person seriously. An insult can be immediately answered beautifully and without the development of further conflict. People can be rude and humiliate another person for the following reasons:

1. A person is unhappy and cannot fully enjoy himself. In this situation, he may insult others for the reason that he considers himself unhappy. That is, he has nothing to rejoice in life. At the same time, shouting at another helps him feel happy.
2. There is no reason to be offended. There are people who simply feed on negative energy, and their screams are a common condition that does not allow you to live in a normal way. He wastes his nerves, his emotions, because he has pain inside.
3. By downgrading another person, many people raise their ego. As you know, the ego is a state of mind that helps a person to feel a personality in himself. But this feeling should know the measure. Because otherwise it will simply rise above another person, catching him for petty misconduct. It is important to remember here that everyone has their own shortcomings.

What should you do if you are offended?

What to do if you are offended? In such a situation, it is important to behave as required by behavior and communication norms. It is not always necessary to stoop to the same level and offend him with your words and actions. After all, a weak and insecure person offends. There are a lot of such people in life, it is impossible to get rid of them. Therefore, do not take it seriously and do not pay attention to it.

But what if you have been greatly offended? What to do in such a situation? There are a large number of cases when you can get nasty. A conflict situation may occur, and insults will emerge during it. This is perhaps the most common occurrence in life, and it can happen to just about anyone.

If you are an offender...

It happens that a person did not want to do this. But, alas, it happened in a fit of strong emotions. Then it becomes interesting for many to know how to behave if they offended a person? What to do in such a situation? It's easier here. After all, it’s enough just to stop talking nonsense and just ask for an apology, explaining your impulse that these are just emotions.

School. What to do if peers bully your child in an educational institution?

Insult is always unpleasant words. They may be directed at another person. What to do if you are offended? You can act in such a situation in different ways. Depending on the person who is rude, and on the moment at which the incident occurred.

There are different areas of human life, which will also distinguish cases of conflicts and insults. For example, school. This is a place where children of all ages come to learn. They spend a lot of time in it, gaining knowledge on subjects, and sometimes life experience.

If at school, what should parents and children do? First of all, it is important to remember that if a child is offended, then only parents should monitor and intercede for the child. Each person understands the word "offend" differently. Its essence is also conveyed to children in various ways.

Boys are prone to frequent insults, who at the time of the game can say offensive words, commit some act. Your child does not need to be taught that it is necessary to repeat the same movement and pronounce the same words. After all, it often happens with children that after half an hour they are already playing again. And when adults teach people to respond to bad actions with bad deeds, then these scandals will only grow.

So what do you do if your child is bullied at school? Now let's figure it out. It is important for parents to solve the problems of children from their earliest age, or rather, to help them cope in difficult situations. Children come from different families, with different abilities and behavior. Therefore, it is worth focusing on their education. If a child often begins to hear bad words addressed to him, then he will simply become isolated over time and stop developing as a person, because he will have fear. Unfortunately, this can happen once and for all. Therefore, from a very early age, it is important to teach the child to the possibility of aggression from other people, words of insult.

Parents should clearly separate the words and actions of classmates. If these are just verbal insults, then it is important for the child to be taught how to respond and respond to them correctly. But it also happens that things take a different turn, namely, a child can be hit. In this case, parents are simply obliged to intercede for him.

What to do if your spouse offended you?

Unfortunately, abuse can happen even within the walls of one's own home. This is the feeling that can be caused in the process of a quarrel, a scandal. Most often, such aggressive acts can be between a husband and wife. Spouses often swear and allow themselves to utter bad words.

If the husband offends, what to do in this case? Of course, it is important to understand that if insults come to you, then each person in the pair is to blame. Rarely, a spouse can utter words of humiliation to a soulmate just like that. Most often, this is an incident that provokes the manifestation of such emotions. Adults should calm down, find a compromise in resolving a conflict dispute. There are some varieties of cases when a husband offends seriously, and ordinary conversations in this case are not enough. Here it is worth looking for the cause of the occurrence of this and rather solve the problem.

What to do if you offended a man?

It also happens that a man. What to do in such a situation? It's a little easier here. The reason is that a woman can offend and immediately be able to easily and simply make amends. After all, she is full of charm and attractiveness, which she can use. really simple, especially when you know the weak points and just cling to them. In the modern world, men are no longer those knights on horseback who can stand up for themselves and for the interests of their woman.

Now you know what to do if you are offended. And here it is important to make key points. First of all, you should be smarter than the one who offends. And this means that sometimes you need to remain silent and ignore a person. Of course, one should not always give up and be silent. Because there are situations that do not allow repetition. Then it is worth responding nicely and clearly to the insult.

You need to remember that it is the one who offends who is the loser. Such people should be pitied. After all, they are unhappy in life, they do not have their own happiness and deeds that would simply distract from negative thoughts. You can respond to an insult with the same actions and words. The person will realize that they are wrong and may apologize for their actions. At the moment of insult, it is necessary to turn off emotions. Indeed, sometimes they will simply spoil the whole picture and lead only to a negative result. It is important to perceive yourself as a person, behave like a person and understand that there are the same people around who want to live, enjoy every day, raise children and be happy. But they have their own character and behavior. Therefore, it is important to treat them the same way as they are.

A small conclusion

One has only to imagine for a moment what will happen if every person responds in this way to an insult and tough behavior - this is the end of peace and goodness on earth. Every psychologist claims that it is necessary to change yourself initially. Once the habits of insulting a person are gone, everything will fall into place. Then children will not hear this, and then repeat after adults.