Each person has a certain amount of selfishness. Trying to please someone, we all expect a positive reaction. Such a mutual exchange becomes a habit and makes people dependent on other people's emotions, feelings, experiences. Disorders in love / work / friendships traditionally occur with scandals. Any quarrel is a kind of giveaway game, where everyone is led to provoke an opponent, thereby showing their weak sides but still trying to win. Such tactics usually lead to nervous exhaustion, constant anxiety and loss of self-esteem. Ignoring is a great trick to keep it all safe.

Demonstrative contempt

Proven in relationships is to keep a person at a distance. If this is a man, he will definitely react to the ostentatious coldness of a woman and try to conquer her, if an envious colleague, by completely ignoring him, can be misled and forced to slow down the rivalry. With your coldness towards you, you show your superiority to him. When the response to the provocation of the ill-wisher is complete ignorance, the ability to manipulate you disappears. This technique was used by medieval kings and politicians, because earlier all relationships were built solely on trust.

Information hunger

If you are going to wage a Cold War with ignorance, it is important to stick to your chosen tactics. It is not for nothing that there are scouts in all the defense units of the world. Do not tell the enemy about your plans, do not frighten him with threats, do not let people close to him near you. Due to the sudden informational lull that has arisen, the opponent himself will start looking for ways to get closer to you (unless, of course, he does not support your "game"). Ignoring is a great way to get revenge emotional person... If your offender is one of these, feel free to use him, observing the victim's feelings from the outside.

Death to relationships

Most of all, close people react to ignorance. Do not try to point out to your dear person about his mistakes in this way, because this will not work. But this method can lead to a complete collapse of relations. In love affairs, ignoring will be a real blow to the feelings of a partner, because he will be deprived of the coveted attention of a person he likes. In relation to loved ones, this method of revenge is more cruel than an open statement of dislike. Using ignorance, you become independent of the opinions of others, and therefore invulnerable. However, it must be remembered that such isolation can lead to temporary loneliness, therefore, this technique can be used only in case of emergency.

Hello to all fans of digging in the brains! No, I’m not talking about surgeons and pathologists, I’m about those who are impressed by psychology, those who don’t feed on bread - let me study such a complex phenomenon as a person.

Today I will touch upon a slightly rare, but not at all boring topic - ignoring individuals of their own kind. We will figure out why ignore is the best way to tie a person to yourself. Let's also think about why this "method of attracting attention" is so effective.

Where do the legs grow from or why does the ignore work in the opposite direction?

Surely, many of you have heard that by ignoring a person, you can get his attention. But at the same time, the question immediately arises: "Is this generally legal?" How it works?

Human nature is such that we are all selfish creatures! And this is an established fact, even the most altruistic people are not able to argue with the laws of nature, which work on the conscious and subconscious levels.

If we are still able to control the consciousness, then the subconscious, alas and oh - no.

“Why ignore a person to get attention,” you ask. After all, you can, on the contrary, try to "show yourself" in all its glory!

But the reality is that the person who is being ignored is in most cases able to feel as if he has been rejected.

And then Her Majesty "Narcissism" enters the scene. Coupled with selfishness, this gives a nuclear mixture, prompting a person to prove their worth and importance.

This is where it begins ... The attention of the ignored to the ignorant increases quite significantly. In fact, this works precisely because the ignored wants to prove his worth first of all to himself - that he is needed, that he is noticed.

Therefore, we can say that such a "scheme of seduction" works exclusively from the selfish motives of the potential victim. And given that a person initially has a code in his subconscious to love himself, which encourages him to increase the level of his own self-sufficiency, this method works for most people.

However, it is worth considering that this method is not a magic wand and it does not guarantee one hundred percent success in attracting attention. It works under certain conditions, which I propose to get acquainted with right now.

Management instruction: how to attract attention with the help of an ignore and what is it for at all?

For a start, it is advisable to decide for what purpose you want to attract the attention of a certain person: to amuse your ego, to play with other people's feelings, or to gain his disposition towards yourself. Everyone has their own preferences, but this law of psychology works for everyone in the same way.

First, don't ignore the person you want to get your attention right from the start. First, show that he is important to you. Otherwise, you risk scaring him off with your indifference.

After you made it clear to him that you like him - start acting.

But do not try to flirt and shower this person with your cold attitude towards him. It is best to be polite to him: transferring the meeting, tell him about it gently and express your upset about such a force majeure.

Secondly, do not delay ignoring! Otherwise, you will get the appropriate result - the person will lose interest in you and grow cold.

It is worth ignoring only for a short time in order to attract attention, after which you need to act, and not continue to dynamize your potential passion (especially for men, although a priori will not act in this way).

By the way, it is worth making a reservation that this technique does not work for all people, because some of them have a low degree. Namely, it makes a person prove his worth.

Therefore, it will be difficult to attract by ignoring the attention of a person who is absolutely violet, what others think about him and whether they generally pay attention to him.

Nevertheless, this method of "seduction" should not be written off. I am also interested to know your opinions and stories regarding this topic. On this I do not say goodbye to you, but say: "See you soon!"

I am always Sasha Bogdanova

Easy ignore (LI) and total ignore (TI)

Very often total ignore (TI) has to be advised, and this is the only correct advice in this situation. This is a situation when a person was openly, directly rejected, dismissed, insulted, offended, changed, preferred another / another, said that they did not like and left.

In these cases, there is no way to get away with a slight ignorance. This is a very serious, very strong imbalance and it can only be reversed by a real shake-up, only by serious and abrupt actions, a complete reboot.

Light ignore (LI) is suitable in cases where the partner has cooled down a little, but does not say anything about it, even denies or somehow justifies his coldness - tired at work, family problems, etc. Then it is appropriate to lag behind a person a little, to give him air, freedom, not to call or write, not to show initiative, but still not to break off relations and positively reinforce his initiative.

Those. if a girl refuses to meet because she is tired, she is going to visit relatives, her mother has arrived, the cat is giving birth, etc., you can turn on a slight ignore. And if she said that she wants to end the relationship because she wants to understand herself, because there are no feelings, because she fell in love with another or her betrayal was revealed, then a total ignore is needed. Not the fact that it will help, of course. But everything else will make the situation worse. Much worse.

TI lasts up to mega B. They often ask how to understand that this is mega B, that it is already possible to stop ignoring and get in touch. For this, the partner's move, the very mega closer, must completely neutralize the offense for which he was sent to the TI. Those. if this is treason - complete remorse, declaration of love, access to the phone, i.e. a person must ask for forgiveness and in every possible way show and prove his loyalty, so that he will be believed again.

This seems fantastic to many, especially to those who are happy with a simple "hi-kakdila" from the one who threw them. And it's really unlikely that a person for whom your importance has dropped enough to commit adultery or something else from the above, suddenly fell in love with you so much again. It doesn't happen all of a sudden. It is in order for this to happen that a total ignore and a serious pumping of personality are needed. But even if this does not happen, ignoring will still remain the most correct decision, because there is no point in returning or staying in a relationship where your importance is so low.

The degree of closeness should always be directly proportional to the significance. If the significance has fallen, then the degree of intimacy should also decrease in proportion to the decrease in your significance. Yours, not your partner. A partner may, and probably, remain very important to you, but you should reduce the degree of intimacy with him immediately and just as much as your importance has fallen. And not as much as you want. It is clear that with a significant partner you want to communicate and stay close, no matter what he says or does. I want to grab at every straw, respond to every ping, look for reasons to meet, transfer and pick up endless things and make friends. But this will ultimately ruin the chances of a return, because by such actions it will be absolutely impossible to raise its significance. If a person agrees to less, they will never be offered more. If you do not agree, they may not be offered either, but at least there is a chance. And in the first case, no chance. Agreeing to intimacy when imbalanced completely takes away the chance for a balanced relationship.

How total TI should be.

It should be total in the love and intimate area, and not in any way touch on all other aspects of existence - finances, work, common property, children, etc.

Those. you cannot ignore messages about a shared mortgage, your debts or the health of common children, you need to quickly resolve all financial matters related to this person and not enter into new ones. And completely ignore everything that is not related to this.