Often you can hear the phrase: "The character of a person is given from birth." But it happens that some traits of nature become the cause of unpleasant events in life. And then the question arises, and is it possible to change your temper? According to psychologists, a person must constantly work on himself - if something prevents him to achieve success in life, then it is necessary to get rid of it.

There is also an opposite opinion - it is impossible to change the character. Is it really? Today we will talk about how to change the character. I will present to your attention the most effective advice of psychologists, helping to change habits and lifestyle.

When the steep temper, or, on the contrary, the insecurity, become the cause of trouble and problems, then a desire to change something sharply in your life appears. And it is necessary to start with a character.

Opinions of psychologists about whether it is possible to change the temper, diverge. Some of them believe that the temper cannot be changed, and the bad habits or weaknesses need to be "turned over" so that they subsequently helped a person to achieve the highest benefits. Another opinion of specialists in the field of psychology is such that from habits that interfer to live normally, it is necessary to get rid. And you can do it, you just need to want, and then start hard work on yourself.

What is character? These are habits, a method of thinking, behavioral bases and a certain type of response to various situations. The character of man does not have a genetic basis, that is, it is impossible to pass inheritance. What kind of moral is a person depends on numerous factors. First, on the temper is the strongest influence of education. Second, lifestyle and the surrounding atmosphere are also "bricks", drawn by nature.

Throughout life, the man is changing. The first changes begin to manifest itself in childhood - most of the children are kind, responsive, rectilinear and naive. Theme changes occur in adolescence - aggressiveness appears, irritability. In a young age, a person becomes a purposeful, self-confident, decisive or, on the contrary, passive, afraid and incredulous. In an adult, a character may vary depending on the situation.

For example, even the most calm and direct person will become active and decisive if an infrared beast appears in front of him. Energetic and decisive at work A person in the home setting becomes lazy and good-natured.

What is the characteristic features depend?

So, we see that the temper can be changed. How to change your character? The first thing to start, this is with changes in habits or response methods in certain situations. Secondly, it is necessary to understand that after certain features of the shortage will be changed, it will be necessary to continuously "work".

The ability to change the temper depends on numerous factors:

• age - the older man, the more difficult it is to "work" on himself and try to change something in himself "
• congenital features - some people have the ability to change the character "laid" by nature, others have to make tremendous efforts to fix something in themselves.
• education - only from parents or neighbor relatives can be learn about such concepts as good and evil, independence and softness, determination and tacity;
• interests are an indicator of character that determines the behavioral foundations of a person;
• the circle of communication - the surrounding people have a big impact on habits and image of the behavior of a certain person.

Character features from which you need to get rid of

Psychologists allocate 3 traits of character who interfere with a person to seek life benefits. Accordingly, if these features "lead" behavior, then change something inside itself will be very difficult.

Before changing the character, you need to get rid of the following features forever:

• Laziness. Lazy man is difficult to develop discipline. That is, he will try to postpone all the important things "for tomorrow", because today they are lazy to make them.
• Low self-esteem. The one who does not like himself is not able to improve his life. It is very important to learn yourself not just like, but to love. Love for himself develops self-confidence, and a self-confident person can cope with the most negative features to become better and perfect.
• Passivity and negative thinking. This item is inextricably linked with the previous one. It is impossible that such phrases existed in the soul: "I can't do it," "I am not under power," "I am not able to do better than others." It is important to learn to always say: "Yes."

How to change the character?

You can change the character. You only need to start hard work on yourself. Following the algorithm below, it is possible to liquidate negative features in the shortest possible time from the nature and acquire the positive parties.

Analysis of its own character

To begin with, it is necessary to determine the features of the lava, which will need to get rid of. You can make it very easy to - take a sheet of paper, draw a vertical strip on it, write a negative feature in one column, to another - a way to get rid of them.

For example, the person is uncommunicative. You need to become sociable and sociable. It will be possible to achieve this if a person becomes more common to communicate with pleasant people, participate in public events, get acquainted and manifest initiative in conversations with colleagues or partners.

Another example, a man is weak and cowardly. In this case, you will need a lot of work on yourself. You can defeat your fears only if you "see them in the eye."

Awareness of the problem

It is not easy to change your character, and many people have a question - whether it is necessary to do it. If such thoughts appeared in the head, then you need to urgently eliminate them.

Easy way: It is necessary to find a person who has the same negative features (for example, cowardice or indecision). Then you need to pass on how he lives, what is his problems, as his negative feature prevents him from seeking life success. Only after the problem is "decrypted", it will immediately want to get rid of it.

Search idol

It is very helpful to find the image of a person who wants to be similar. For example, if a colleague is resolute and purposeful, then he seeks respect from the bosses, and it, in turn, regularly encourages good premium. Of course, it wants to be like such an active colleague.

Self Control

To get positive results, you will need time. As psychologists say, the change in the habit is spent on 21 days. Throughout the time you will have to carefully monitor your own emotions, behavior and mental state.

It is important to comply with the sequence. That is, it is impossible to change it immediately, it is impossible to do it gradually - first change one line, and then proceeds to the change of others.

Promotion

Any work must be rewarded. Character change is a huge work, and it is necessary to get a decent award for it.

The best reward will be words of gratitude from neighboring. To get good words to your address, you need to do something good and meaningful, for example, feed homeless puppies, help the old woman to go through the road, open the door in the store in front of a young mother with a carriage.

Conclusion

• The character of a person is the basis of his life. Character is not just behavioral bases, these are habits and reactions to certain actions.
• You can change the character towards improvement, but it is necessary to prepare for painstaking and responsible work. Only by changing the negative features can be understood as close to happiness and success.

"Tell me please, ? I am 20 years old, and I can't cope with me. I can be that evil and aggressive, then it seems normal and calm. And then again I start to argue on everyone, I can quiet, clap the door. Often offended by trifles. Sometimes I'm trying to hold back, but I miss me for a long time. I hate yourself such. I have almost no friends. What should I do with me? "

Victoria Vinnikova is replied, teacher:

Hello Anna. We all dream of becoming better. Someone is tired of annoying and snapped on others, the other wants to become decisive and confident in herself, the third is tired of rude and offended. Most often we are talking about stable habits, but we all want to change in nature.

In this article, we will show 5 simple steps to understand what nature you can and how can it be fixed.

1. Everyone has its own temper and a special temperament

Obviously, all people are different. One person from the birth of a smart and movable, and a more calm person may seem like this is such a restless character. The other is slow and thorough, inclined to systematization and analysis. And then the smart man can say that the first is a boring character.

Someone is unnecessarily emotional, someone is more closed in themselves. We all have our own features, and, giving a person a person, we add different epithets: hysterical, emotional, artistic, closed, etc. And what - all these people need to be changed their nature and ask the question asking: how to change the character for the better?

The scientific response is in the field of unconscious, which studies and reveals the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan.

When we want to change our character, you need to begin to understand what exactly we want to change in it, that is, it is clear that it is precisely to seek to achieve the desired result or makes suffering.

System-vector psychology gives a clear answer, why it does not work in life or another and how to fix it: however, it is properly used.

As in the famous proverb: Sing the act - you will get a habit, we have a habit - you will get enough character, and lay in nature - you will get fate.

2. Character - congenital or acquired?

We all differ from each other, but at the same time our desires, properties and aspirations can be combined into groups that system-vector psychology Yuri Burlan calls vectors.

So the nature of each person determine its innate vector.

You can think of your character, but it will not change anything. It is better to figure out how everything is arranged and correct what can be changed.

3. Habits are formed since childhood

Obviously, character is formed from childhood. It is there that we make our first actions, which then become habit. Good or not - this is another question.

All our actions are dictated by unconscious desires for enjoyment, the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan is approved. Therefore, the basis of the formation of childhood habits is the desire of a child to get pleasure or avoid suffering.

When, for example, the congenital desire for a person with a skin vector is the nature of the rapid, dexterous, constantly in motion - is suppressed in childhood and it is forced to "sit like and not twitch", then as a result, he has a habit of fussy and mining.

And if a child with an anal vector, which is in nature, and leisurely, was constantly customized and hurried - then from the very childhood he is being formed by such a character of character, as stubbornness, which looks like it looks like it is in any occasion in a stupor.

"... during the passage of the training was the winner of the professional competition" Teacher of the Year ". Allowed himself from the scene improvise (I was afraid before). There was confidence, courage, desire to experiment. Irritability and nervousness is not. At least, learned to control himself. Now more energy, desire to act.

Thanks to SVP with all passion, I do not save, I live and surrender to life. I allow yourself to be filled (in egoism!), Since I want to give more to another. Previously, he considered "Honor" to be "martyr" and pull the "cross". Now allowed to remove the layer of culture and feel their nature. This is a great pleasure - to feel yourself! .. "

The famous inner smile appears already on the free online training in the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan.

We are transformed for the better

The life of some people is full of hopelessness. They have long lowered their hands, because unable to change something and become happy. Helplessness, disgust to itself and the inability to love life became their permanent satellites. They do not have a loved one and in their surroundings there are very few people, sincerely wanting to be happiness.
Even if all of the above does not apply to you, anyway, each of us is imperfect. Therefore, any every periodically arise the thoughts that their character would be good to change for the better. Someone wants to do this for the sake of a loved one, someone should be tougher for a successful career. But in any case, the desire to change something is wonderful.
You will have to make a lot of effort and tune in for a long time. But for the time that your life has changed by 180 degrees and stopped reminding instead of an asphalt road a bumpy path, it is worth doing.
Great, though rudely, said on this occasion of Fain Ranevskaya: "If you are waiting that you will be taken as you are - you are lazy Murlo. Because if you do not change and work on yourself - die alone. "
The desire to change your character is the main sign of personal growth.

Remember that it is precisely the character fully reflects your ideas about life. Personal features grow and develop with you. Therefore, tune to the best and always remember, for which you do it.

Be sure to ask for help for loved ones. They will tell what you don't always see in yourself, but what can really be changed.

Step 1. Get rid of all complexes and fears that prevent you from living. Some people subconsciously fear success and therefore do not want to change anything. After receiving an argued confirmation of this (in some cases from a specialist), you can change some beliefs laid since childhood, and further adjust your character.
It is in the children's period that the character of a person begins to be laid, pushing out its congenital qualities: temperament, heredity and type of nervous system. Praise yourself every time you come to the mirror in the morning. This simple autotraining is able to charge you with positive energy for the whole day.
Step 2. Start fighting bad habits. Any problem, not only harms (health or money), it still tends to accumulate and exacerbate. The habit of glowing the stomach will first lead to different degrees of obesity, and then to diabetes, high load on the heart and will reduce the life of life.
It is hard, and almost impossible to be happy, knowing that you are not giving your life, but an alcohol or another passion. To live in order to indulge them - dubious pleasure. Of course, it is impossible to change in one day for the better, but you can start working in this direction and gradually, step by step everything will turn out.
Step 3. Be sure to make a plan - for a year, for two and five years. All projects must be very detailed and real. It is very important that the plan constantly has before your eyes, and you reread it several times a day. Disassemble every retreat from the planned path, study what exactly prevented you at some point.
Step 4. Analyze your behavior. Situations in our lives are repeated with enviable constancy, so to change their character, it would be good to start to keep a diary. Track in it all victories and lesions, pay attention to the misses.
Step 5. Take the rule to make good deeds. Volunteer or charitable activities will help you become softer. Pushing in your heart is good, you will only win this. First, you immediately feel how your life will be filled with positive emotions; Secondly, your self-esteem and respect for others will grow in front of the eyes; And thirdly it is just very useful for karma (emoticon).
Run an elderly neighbor heavy bag, and a young mother help to pull the stroller from the porch. You do not take it a lot of time and will not require any effort, but you really change for the better. For this it is worth living - try and you will understand how cool to do good!
Step 6. Always be honest. Before him, in front of others - for a positive person, such a character trait is very important. The lie is a very insidious thing at least that she gradually destroys the personality. In addition, you do not have to remember everything and be in tension to remember who and what you said.
Step 7. Try to keep the word. Previously, people died, but tried not to retreat from what was said, because for a person he was considered the only possible. Nowadays, you will listen to you (this is especially true of business), respect for others will grow by an order of magnitude, and you yourself will be proud of yourself.
Step 8. Work constantly over strong rear. The family in which you will be cozy and reliably or excellent relationships with the spouse is one of the components of a happy life. Try to do our best to live in love. Not in vain in a person who loves, wings grow behind his back.

If you do not have a loved one yet, your family (parents, brothers and sisters) should become the inventory where you will always support and help. A strong family at all times was considered an indicator of human success. In business, there are always more confidence in business than unfortunate and lonely.
Step 9. Create yourself so that, looking into the mirror, you have always been satisfied with your reflection. Admit the right to uniqueness and love himself.
Work on your figure and appearance. Dirty hair and dirt under the nails will not decorate anyone and even the most positive man. And straight shoulders, confident gait and clear eyes will definitely lead to the admiration of others, new friends and acquaintances. In addition, the principle of feedback works here - changed outwardly, you can no longer be the same, and you will definitely comply with yourself a new one.
Nowadays they are found along the clothes, it is not anywhere to go. Select a few roles for yourself and try to change them, depending on the mood and upcoming events. Being always in shape, you will become much harvested special, and, accordingly, change your character for the better.
Step 10. Tune in to positive. Notice in others only good. During the day we hear many complaints from others, and notice that people's thoughts are very strongly affected by their behavior and feelings. As you call the yacht, it will swim away - this expression really determines the quality of life of each of us.
If you have a rule, constantly regret yourself and complain about life, stop and remember that you have a good. Each of us can thank the fate or God for something - for good health, a strong family or a loved one and a loving person. Always remember this and appreciate what is.

There is a good exercise, with which you can work out a new habit - put an elastic band for money on your hand and every time a pessimistic thought appears, pull out the gum and hit yourself. And be sure to repeat that everything is fine with you and will be even better. The habit does not focus on the negative changes the character of a person for the better. In addition, it is so much easier to live, and it is more useful for the nervous system.
Step 11. Read the special literature. It can be both books on psychology and some situations described in the artistic literature. The main thing is that you can, relying on other people's mistakes, avoid negative experience.
Step 12. Learn to manage emotions. In conflict situations, control their rage (for example, considering it up to 50): this will allow much more productive to solve all the questions. In addition, retaining composure, you will only win the dispute. Drink from ourselves the whole negative - jealousy, egoism, envy and you immediately change your character for the better.
Remember that only optimists can be happy.

By changing your character for the better, you will live a happy life that will be much better than that which would have an unfortunate and unsatisfied person who failed to find strength to move forward.

If you believe that the character you possess is your disadvantage, then, of course, you can try to change it. You will succeed only if you attach really a lot of effort, because the character is formed by years, from early childhood. It is possible that at best, you will learn only to hide some of the unsightly sides of the nature, but there are situations when it is enough. Start act, and then you definitely achieve positive results.

Change the bad habits for useful

Undoubtedly, you understand that habits have a significant impact on our lives. If you want to purchase useful habits, then the first time, for sure, to stimulate yourself. How to do it? For example, you are determined tomorrow morning go on a jog. In this case, on the evening, prepare clothes for running, backpack. It is important to do this in advance when you are still full of motivation to act. In the morning, cooked things will significantly increase the chances of what you really will take care of sports.

In some cases, in order to get rid of bad habits, it is necessary forever or at least for some time to change the environment, contributing to these habits. The negative experience that you receive from communication with the "unsuitable" people is subsequently becoming a bad habit. For example, if you notice that most often drink or smoke in a company of a certain person, then your meetings need to be dramatically reduced. You can also learn good things in a good environment - sign up for any sports section, on an interesting master class and so on.

Try to limit access to bad habits. For example, if you spend a lot of time to view the TV, then get in advance from the battery panel, putting them for a considerable distance from yourself. Do you want to quit smoking? Periodically get rid of all cigarettes, matches, lighters in the house. Subsequently, in order to do what you would like to fall off, you have to apply additional efforts. In the mentioned cases - constantly get up to switch the channel or dress and go to the store.

Make the character more hard

It seems to you that you are a pretty slightly accuracy person? In this case, you can make your character stronger, following some simple recommendations. First of all, no matter how difficult it was, it is necessary to reject all the advice that do not correspond to the fact that you are internally solved themselves. Each person is guided by its own interests, and sometimes it happens unconsciously. That is why one should not force anyone to do as you wish, however, do not let others impose your opinions to you. Determine for yourself the right path and follow it.

It is also very important to learn how to manage your own emotions, suppress them in yourself if necessary. Your daily deeds and decisions should depend only on common sense, and do not be carried out under the influence of emotions. Often, it is not easy to stick to this position, but if you make efforts, everything will work out. If the situation happened, which causes you a flurry of emotions, find the opportunity to interrupt the conversation, silence, mentally count to ten, and only then continue the dialogue. If possible, it is at all without words to exit the situation, leaving time for her thinking.

There is an opinion that thoughts are material. That is, how you imagine the development of a situation, so it is with a large probability. For example, if you have a fear of the upcoming meeting, in my thoughts you will scroll through its possible negative moments, then it is most likely that it will happen - this is exactly such a psychological installation you give yourself. Meanwhile, if you make efforts in order to relax and calm down as much as possible, think about the positive sides of the meeting, it is likely that everything will be very good. Also involve yourself to the fact that in any, even the most unpleasant situation should be at least one plus - if trouble happened to you, find it in this positive side, it certainly has, and do so always in such cases.

Become confident and purposeful person

So, what is self-confidence? First of all, of course, it is a solid faith in yourself. To achieve it, you need to completely abandon the habit of comparing yourself with someone, and realize that you are a unique person, what is no longer on Earth. If you constantly compare yourself with someone, you will always be in the loss, because it will invariably find those who for some criteria will seem better to you.

Also stop constantly criticizing - it is difficult to be a confident person if you have a negative perception of yourself.

No less important, not focusing on what remained in the past. No need to spend your time and energy on thinking about what is no longer in your life. Do you understand that there is no point in that? Similar thoughts only distract you from the present and the future.

If you think that you lack the purposefulness, then at the moment when you need to do something, visualize the result. Imagine what will happen when you do the necessary work - you will receive for it some kind of fee and so on.

When performing any case, do not be distracted by extraneous classes, even if it is not very difficult for you. Forcing yourself to finish the work done, promising myself some remuneration after the task is to meet some goodies or a more significant purchase. Imagine what relief you will experience when it will finally be done.

Improve character traits for a loved one

Often we think about how to change your character because of loved ones. Of course, when we understand that some of our features bring disorders and grieving to a dear person, most of us want to fix it. If you understand that some kind of trait of your character spoils your relationship with someone of loved ones, and at the same time you realize that it is a problem and for you personally, then, of course, it makes sense to think about how to get rid of Disadvantage. We can talk about excessive contiguity, hot tempering, jealousy, and so on. If you notice something like this, then attempt to control it.

What is temperament and what it differs from character

Before understanding the difference between character and temperament, let us define these two concepts.

Temperament - A set of a number of human psyche properties that influence its activities and behavioral habits. The nervous system is responsible for temperament, and its sensitivity affects the events, the memory, the pace of human activity.

Character - A certain set of human qualities that are manifested in interaction with the surrounding world. As well as temperament, there is a connection with the psyche, but is not given from birth, but is formed under the influence of various factors. The character is influenced by the social environment, education, environment, and so on.

It is worth noting that temperaments can be divided into certain types: Sanguine, melancholic, choleric, phlegmatic. Often people have a mixed type of temperament, but still try to consider them separately.

• Choleric - The most unbalanced from all types. Easily excit, quick-tempered. Nevertheless, it can not well shift itself in emergency cases when the reaction rate is required.
• Sanguinik - Easy in communication, friendly, is distinguished by the speed of the reaction. If there is an interest - workable if it is not lazy.
• Melancholic - It is distinguished by increased anxiety. At the same time, very thoughtful, often erudite. Impressed.
• Phlegmatic person - The most calm type. Externally, it is not inclined to the manifestation of emotions, differ in impuditivity. Work can perform slowly, but hard.

Is it possible to change the temperament and how to do it

Psychologists tend to believe that temperament is given to us at birth, and it is impossible to completely change, in contrast to nature. And yet we note that some features can still be developed or adjusted slightly. For example, if you are a choleric, and you want to become more balanced, then learn to keep your emotions under control. The most popular advice in this case: at the moment when you feel that you are "on the verge of", consider it from one to ten. In general, to change this or that line of temperament, you need to pass certain exercises by choosing the ones you consider necessary for yourself.

Become another person for 1 day - is it really possible

Unfortunately, to become completely different person in one day is unrealistic. Maximum what you can do during this period is to radically change your image, and look different, and not the way you used to see others. Well, in this case it is important to understand that, most likely, the changes will be very superficial, because in order to, for example, change the features of the figure, it will take a certain time. However, in a day you can also do a lot - at least one very important thing, which will set the vector with great changes. During the day you can schedule an action plan, realize how you want to see yourself, for example, in a month or two. Describe this person on a piece of paper. After that, write what you need to do every day to achieve this result.

Let's summarize: per day only surface internal and external changes are possible. For serious change, a certain amount of time is necessary, the duration of which depends specifically from your ultimate goal. Also per day, you can fully think about the action plan, which will help you achieve the desired one.

It is impossible to improve your character and, thus, the quality of life, without possessing the self-control. So, what are the methods for its development?

Do not give in impulses

It is very important to recognize impulsive thoughts. You will be able to develop a self-control, if you form strategies for yourself, which will help to resist the temptation in seconds of the impulse. Make a list of habits that you would like to control, as well as situations that provoke these habits from you. Fruit to determine the moments in which you are adding a pulse, you will learn how to create a barrier between desire and subsequent action.

Switch attention

If you decide to abandon smoking, calls for a former girl or any other actions that do not improve your life at all, then self-control is what is just necessary in such situations. First, if the desire to make some kind of harmful act will appear, then admit yourself. Realizing that there is a problem, proceed to its solution - in this case, you should immediately "switch" yourself to something else. You can call a friend, start writing a letter to a relative, cook dinner, go to the cinema. Consciously make yourself take care of other things, but do not succumb to temptation.

Formulate the general model of behavior

Decide with the model of the behavior that you would like to keep under control. We all have the life of life that require more self-controls from us. Make a list of such areas, and tick at least a few of those you have to work. Remember that a certain time interval will be needed to change habits, you have to make certain efforts. That is why it is important to set real goals.

It is important to understand that you can only control your behavior. For example, you should not put such a goal: "Being a good relationship with my wife", because this item still requires some participation and from the spouse. Form the goal differently, for example: "Being tolerant to my wife."

Do not mind immediately for many tasks - first try to succeed although in some of them, and only then go to the next.

Poor character if desired can be fixed

With the proper degree of diligence, of course, you can change certain features of your bad nature, but it is worth realizing that it is not done per day or two - a long practice will need. Also, it is also important to understand what kind of character you want to have in the end - if you do not think about it, it will be silly to wait for significant changes. To watch a couple of hours to imagine (can be on paper), what character you need, and only then you can schedule a further action plan.

Of course, if you wish to make changes to your character, but at the same time will not begin to do something for this, then the whole idea is doomed to failure. Dedote some time self-development. At first, you probably will feel insecurity and fear, but rear themselves and continue conceived - only so you can achieve success.

Psychology: Is it possible to change the nature of 30 years

Perhaps it is difficult to argue with the fact that a person can become better at any age. Of course, if he really wants it! If by thirty years you came to the conclusion that certain features of your character give you an inconvenience and not in the best way, they affect your life, then you can completely correct the situation!

To change your identity you need to work on yourself

Changes in any personality imply a large amount of internal work, but, of course, it is worth it. Working on yourself, try to present yourself gardeners who care for your garden. When he wants the flowers to be fragrant, he gets rid of weeds. In our case, flowers are inner strength, and weeds are weak thoughts undermining our strength.

This means that, first of all, you should get rid of excessive emotionality - emotions should be given only to their true significance. Noticing that any obsessive emotion unpleasant to you, unpleasant to you, immediately "switch" yourself to something other - to be distracted for half an hour. Over time, you will learn how to deal with similar weaknesses.

Also remember that honesty in everything is supporting a strong character, so be a person a word, and try not to lie - neither for anyone else.

Find an example for imitation or just be

If it is still difficult for you to decide what exactly you want to achieve, what kind of person you would like to be, you can find an example for imitation. We have already mentioned that it is not necessary to compare themselves with anyone, but in this case you should still find some kind of guidelines. For example, think that one of the familiar causes you with admiration or respect, and what the features of his character contributed to this. After that, think about how this person it turns out to be exactly the same, and no matter how you can come to this. If you understand that you can not be rendered by the desired character, find the positive aspects of your own personality, and try to strengthen them.

Self-analysis - a step to a new yourself

Perhaps it is difficult for you to fully determine your desires and talents and desires. In this situation, you can help detailed self-analysis. In general, almost all psychological tests are based on self-analysis - according to the answer options, an approximate representation can be made about a person. However, you can easily do without tests or psychologists, and independently conduct an analysis of your personality.

It would be nice to fill in a diary, which would be regularly filled with new events from everyday life, as well as analyzing your actions. Of course, you should write frankly, thinking that only this will help you understand the essence of your actions, open your inner world, to realize the true motivation of some actions. If you have never before the diary before, and you need to do it difficult to start it, then try to write a detailed biography of yourself - try to remember your most serious upheavals and important events since childhood. Try to re-"survive" these events - for sure, you will be able to notice what you have not paid attention before.

Conducting self-analysis, think well over which people are in your environment - this is your "mirror". Reference on why you like to tell the time with certain people, what seems to you most attractive in them. So you will understand what your needs they "close", and, accordingly, what needs you have.

If in some people from their surroundings you see the qualities that would like to have themselves, more often come in their society, and do not notice how you begin to adopt their features. In general, the same can be said about people who do not like you - if you are forced to continuously contact them, then you can subsequently and unwittingly become similar to them.

Down with complexes and fears

Work out the habit of acting, contrary to fear. Realize that the fear is simply an ordinary reaction arising when trying to go to the steps unusual for you.

Also learn how to make decisions, because it is how they make us fight with fear, and still take a job. Seriously configuring yourself to something, you will feel how your fear weakens, because it can only be where insecurity is present. Give yourself an internal installation: "Despite the fact that I am afraid I make a decision to do it."

Of course, indecision and fears are big obstacles to success. Try not to admit any prejudices to your life, which are based only on someone's superficial observations. Guide only by those facts that are based only on common sense. Only overcoming their fear, you will be able to gain a hardness of character, allowing you to quickly, confidently and independently make the right decisions.

With an already specified set of parameters: someone since childhood manifests itself with a consistent and sociable extrovert, the other prefers loneliness and a calm atmosphere; One is hardworking and super-afraid, whereas his comrade is a blank and unorganized; Someone pulls into a humanitarian environment, someone give new appliances. And we did not affect the topic of temperament, intelligence and other interesting things. Probably, therefore, the idea is so popular as popular as if the character of a person is difficult to change. But is it really?

3. Love relations

Of course, at the very beginning you can wear a mask. However, the presence of true sympathy is changing the case. For the sake of your favorite person, we are able to overcome our weaknesses, abandon the bad habits and set great goals. We are ready to make adjustments to our worldview, adopt new views, even a destructive sense. Someone pulls us to the bottom, someone reveals the potential to the maximum - it all depends on the nature of relations. Conflicts in a pair also make their own adjustments.

4. The need for care about someone

When we start your pet, you are also adjusted to his needs. Someone appears, fully dependent on us, which makes a person even more responsible, attentive and conscious. What is already talking about the birth of children, care for sick parents and other factors where motivation appears to be more sensitive, noble, strong, independent, abandon the egocentric picture of the world and know the taste of Altruism.

5. Conscious work on yourself

Psychologists proved the fact that for three months of conscious self-development, we are able to instill a new habit or abandon the destructive old. The main thing in this business is systemic, hard control and inspirational example for imitation. , go to a healthy meal, read more books, sign up for a section of karate, refuse to travel, travel - all this skills that we are able to develop on our own. The main thing is to want.